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No words can explain how deeply people want to connect with each other. How much pain they will suffer trying to be accepted, to be valued and to be loved. The yearning to be wanted is probably the most trauma that some individuals will ever inflict up on themselves. No matter race, colour, creed, sexual orientation, religion, culture, gender, age or any other factor, what everyone wants is to belong, to connect, to be loved. It is so easy to reach out to someone yet, for some it is the most difficult thing to find someone to connect to. Reach out to those you meet in your daily march. You just never know whose life you might touch, what spark, even unknowingly, you may make.

Wednesday 21 August 2013

My top six lessons learnt so far . . .


What did I learn when I stepped in faith and retrained as a teacher? So much! Let me see if I can summarise it succinctly....

1. There is always someone who wants to see you fail - petty jealousies are childish. The personal and professional damage and hurt they inflict are not. They are master manipulators and camouflage the truth but don't give in... If you must do something and you can't change it, avoid it or accept it - walk away with dignity knowing you did the best you could do. Do not falter in this regard.

2. Students - students are the future and should be given every opportunity to shine even if they shine in a way outside the box, in an unexpected glow that surprises - be open to that possibility.

3. Students will respect you if you respect them too - get passed the bravado and unwanted behaviour and embrace the unique person beyond it. It's worth it.

4. All students, like people, want to feel valued and have a sense of place and meaning - help them find it. They'll amaze you.

5. Don't let anything or anyone take your attention away from core business - student welfare and education. To serve is a privilege.

6. Finally, believe - believe that you can make a difference - you will! Believe in your students - they will surprise you. Believe in the vision of positivity and success - it might not go according to plan, but miracles might just happen!

Teach - the ultimate service of love, hope and kindness - just as God loves us and sent his son to serve - endeavour to serve. What you do and say will nurture or destroy a young mind. Students deserve the best in comments, body language and encouragement however exasperated you may become. Don't lose hope. Carry on.

Have faith......anything is truly possible.

Tuesday 6 August 2013

Dictatorial' style sees principal sacked - This could equally apply to Heads of Depts, CEOs, Directors, Managers and other leaders etc


'Dictatorial' style sees principal sacked



Former Bay of Islands College principal Elgin Edwards has failed to have his sacking ruled unjustified and to be reinstated.

In a decision today, the Employment Relations Authority (ERA) said a constant theme had been Edwards' apparent inability to build enduring relationships with other stakeholders in the school community and his explicit refusal to accept that he had ever done anything wrong.

Edwards became principal of the Kawakawa school in January 2010, and after that a new board of trustees sought help from the Ministry of Education through a statutory intervention.

In January 2012, Beverley Pitkethley was appointed limited statutory manager of the school, and she was followed by Carol Anderson in June 2012.

For all practical purposes, Anderson became Edwards' employer. She dismissed him in April this year.

Evidence heard by the ERA was essentially that the board of trustees had felt it was unable to cope with a deteriorating environment at the school, authority member James Crichton said in the decision.

Two board members had given evidence of their growing anxiety about the relationship breakdown within the wider school community, which they attributed to Edwards' approach.

Pitkethley told the authority that in the first few months of her appointment she formed a positive view of Edwards' goals for pupil achievement but a negative view of his methods, the ERA decision said.

"She described his style as 'authoritarian and dictatorial', referred to 'an absence of any meaningful consultation', a reluctance by the principal to engage personally with the school and its community, including his failure to be seen 'out and about' around the school, and a comprehensive breakdown in the relationship with the local community," it said.

Pitkethley had said the board, like staff, felt "marginalised, patronised and disempowered" by Edwards.

"Ms Pitkethley also saw an unwillingness on the part of Mr Edwards to accept that any of the negative consequences were his responsibility and he preferred to analyse things in terms of a conspiracy of negative-minded staff," the decision said.

Anderson, after taking over as the limited statutory manager, said in a letter to Edwards last September that he needed to change the way he operated.

Edwards had maintained in evidence to the authority that Anderson had developed a negative approach to him immediately and set about overwhelming him with complaints, requests and allegations, the decision said.

Unsuccessful mediation had taken place last year, with further mediation in January 2013.

In February this year, a formal support and guidance action plan drawn up by Anderson for Edwards was implemented, although Edwards raised concerns about it.

About that time, a complaint was received about Edwards' treatment of a staff member.

A meeting in March this year between Anderson and Edwards was terminated, with Anderson's evidence being that Edwards had become "heated and vehement".

Edwards had said it was his idea to end the conversation and that he had been "calm and gentle", and Anderson had become "agitated and personal".

"You then stood over me and berated me with personal comments about how I looked," he said.

In a letter to Edwards in late March, Anderson said "the situation is no longer tenable", and asked Edwards to make himself available for "a final opportunity" to respond to concerns.

Edwards' counsel had said phrases used in the letter indicated Anderson had already decided to dismiss Edwards at that stage, but the ERA disagreed.

While the letter could have been more judiciously worded, particularly to make clear Anderson's conclusions were preliminary, it would have been wrong to hold those provisional conclusions back from Edwards, the authority said.

The parties met at a disciplinary meeting in mid-April. According to Anderson, Edwards did not take as fulsome an opportunity to defend his position as she would have expected, the ERA decision said.

By letter dated two days later, Anderson sacked Edwards.

The decision said the dismissal was in the context of a long-running dispute between Edwards and a succession of employer parties about his behaviour, and in particular about his inability to build wholesome relationships with the people around him.

" ... a constant theme was Mr Edwards' apparent inability to build enduring relationships with other stakeholders in the school community and his explicit refusal until the authority's investigation meeting to accept that he had ever done anything wrong," the ERA said.

" This abrupt righteousness, which seems characteristic of his behaviour in his time at the school, has done him little service."

The ERA determined Edwards had been justifiably dismissed.

- © Fairfax NZ News